But as Swiss Marc* reveals, “we behave the way we do because of the numerous rejections we have received from Swiss women.” Tijmens’ top tip?
Women should make themselves more approachable by, for example, smiling and saying ‘hello’. It doesn’t pay off to label yourself an ‘expat’ Think being an expat will make you sound exotic? There are around two million expats in Switzerland from all over the world, but the Swiss are on their home turf: they have friendships they established as children, making it hard for foreigners to build relationships with them.
When it comes to dating in Switzerland, online forums are full of expats crying out for tips on meeting the ‘reserved’, ‘conservative’ or ‘unapproachable’ Swiss.
Looking for answers, The Local’s Emily Rose Mawson uncovers some quirks of the Swiss dating scene.
She may be right: Swiss government figures in 2015 revealed that 35 percent of marriages were between a Swiss and a foreigner.
The Swiss need plenty of encouragement Search dating on any Swiss expat forum, and you find a slew of women moaning that men don’t approach them.
“And do not lie about the fact you are going on different dates.
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“I had to offer full commitment, but be prepared to have and offer a lot of independence too.” …so be clear when dating several people simultaneously While dating a few people at the same time is common in some countries, particularly America, it is not customary in Switzerland.
But you usually need to date around to find the right match. Tijmens advises keeping each date to lunch or dinner – “absolutely no intimacy while you are dating several people,” she warns.
“I advise men to pay on a first date,” says ‘flirt coach’ Thomas Peter, who runs how-to courses in flirting in Zurich or by telephone or email.
“Later on couples usually want to split the costs – especially older couples," he says, adding that surprisingly "Among young people there is still a tendency for girls to expect their date to pay.” Blending commitment and independence is expected…