: You are an expat living in Jakarta involved in a relationship with an Indonesian girl? We know that the bar scene in Indonesia is very adventurous, and though it is easy to meet a decent girl, you may also end up with someone whose only interest is to suck you dry. There are a lot of expressions to designate these girls but my favourite term is "Professional Girlfriend": Her job, the one activity that earns her revenue, is to be your girlfriend, or to make you believe she is. There are some easy things to spot in her behaviour that will help you guess if she's faking the whole thing or not.
I listed 10 of them and I hope they will help you realize if yours is on the game or not: 1) You in Jakarta: To be honest, if it was a massage parlour, a club in Kota, a bar in Blok M, or a karaoke, there is a 99% chance she is a fake. Your only chance is that she was in such a place by accident, but that never really happens.
2) Your Indonesian girlfriend in an abnormal manner.
My ex (which I found out was cheating) was behaving very strangely with her phone: First, the screen was locked with a password.
But the point is that, when it comes to casual sexual relationships, the exceptions are so rare that you'll be far better off avoiding them completely than taking a gamble on even the most apparently promising ones.
So before you jump at the opportunity to "get closer" to the man you want by making things sexual, recognize that his willingness to engage in a casual sexual relationship with you is actually a step away from commitment, not a step towards it.
(If this sounds familiar, it is probably because it is almost identical to the difference between the male and female perspectives on moving in together before marriage.) Any man who is mildly observant of the opposite sex will have a hunch in the back of his mind that this kind of relationship is bound to explode eventually.
But he isn't going to turn down all of the commitment-free sex he'll get in the meantime just because of some "feeling." Men don't trust feelings the way women do. If it is called "no-strings-attached" relationship, that's exactly how he treats it, no matter how much cuddling and hanging out is involved.
She cannot keep track of all the lies she is saying because it is not possible for a normal human being. 5) Another sign that can help you see if the girl you are dating is having multiple boyfriends: She that make her mad/sad/depressed.
7) The sex part is tricky: It is very easy for a girl to fake orgasm, or at least pleasure.
Also, it won't be difficult for her to make you believe she is attracted to you physically and that she enjoys having sex.
Men, on the other hand, see it as nothing more than what it sounds like: sex with no emotional ties, no commitment, nothing.
If anything, men treat it as a step away from a committed relationship, because if they wanted more from a woman, they wouldn't settle for mere sex; they'd want her exclusivity also.